“Suppose you wanted to arrive at a specific location in central Chicago. A street map of the city would be a great help to you in reaching your destination. But suppose you were given the wrong map. Through a printing error, the map labeled “Chicago” was actually a map of Detroit. Can you imagine the frustration, the ineffectiveness of trying to reach your destination?
You might work on your behavior—you could try harder, be more diligent, double your speed. But your efforts would only succeed in getting you to the wrong place faster.
You might work on your attitude—you could think more positively. You still wouldn’t get to the right place, but perhaps you wouldn’t care. Your attitude would be so positive, you’d be happy wherever you were.
The point is, you’d still be lost. The fundamental problem has nothing to do with your behavior or your attitude. It has everything to do with having a wrong map.
If you have the right map of Chicago, then diligence becomes important, and when you encounter frustrating obstacles along the way, then attitude can make a real difference. But the first and most important requirement is the accuracy of the map.
Each of us has many, many maps in our head, which can be divided into two main categories: maps of the way things are, or realities, and maps of the way things should be, or values.” [Quoted from the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People; emphasis mine]
Character Ethic (aka your map) – the primary principles of effective living and the only way people can truly find success and happiness
Personality ethic (aka your attitudes and behaviors) – secondary techniques used to bolster the character ethic, but only effective if you truly understand what character ethic principles you need to change.
When we talk about working on valuable or impactful work, have you thought that maybe YOU are the most valuable work? Going a step further, how do you know if you are working on the right parts of yourself? If you are able to raise your level of awareness, like the book discusses, you will understand that focusing on your map (the character ethic) will provide you with a foundation for change and success.
If you want to change your current situation, first look at yourself and think about what you need to change about yourself to change the situation for the better.
My challenge for you: for one day this week, take the time to think about your actions and make sure you’re working on yourself as the most valuable starting point.